Dating, Love & Marriage
10 Easy Steps to a Healthy Relationship; What Women Want;...
Title: 10 Easy Steps to a Healthy Relationship
Author: Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
Author: Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
Are you ready for real love? In this day and age of fast-paced and short-lived
relationships, it's
challenging and many times difficult, to find good, solid, effective, and useful, information
that helps
to build healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships. Whether you're single, married,
divorced, or looking-to-be-married, these time-tested steps will help you and your
current or future mate to create a long-lasting romantic bliss:
1) Always Be Your "True" Self
You are wonderfully and uniquely made by a loving Creator. If you find that you have to
act or try to
become someone you weren't born to be, in order to fulfill someone else's expectation,
then
something is seriously wrong. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and what
you bring to
the relationship, and vice-versa. If you feel as if you're being pressured to alter your
character to do
things you wouldn't usually do (drink, drugs, pre-mature sex, lie) so that the person will
continue to
see you, that's a certain sign that things are unhealthy. Your true love will gladly embrace
you just for who you are--so don't be afraid, step out in faith and show your true self.
2) Develop Deep Communication with Each Other
A healthy relationship goes much deeper that a surface affair. Even though you may both
look good
arm-in-arm, or standing next to each other, whether at a concert, family reunion, Movie
Theater, or at church, can you talk when you're alone? What's going on in your
conversations--are they deep and meaningful or surface and bland? Do you discuss
personal hopes, dreams and goals, or just talk about the weather and the plot to the
latest drama? Can you count on each other to lend a listening ear, good advice, and
undivided attention? Good, honest, and deep conversation will keep you deeply
connected. When in doubt, talk it out. Always keep the lines of communication open in
your relationship.
3) Don't Ignore, but Explore Your Differences
Do your personalities blend well? Is one of you on the optimistic path while the other is
on the
pessimistic side of the road? Opposites may initially attract, but eventually they can repel
each other. It's important that your personalities are compatible. If one views life through
rose colored glasses, while the other is always singing-the-blues, then you have to
make some sort of adjustment to accommodate each other. The simple truth is oil and
vinegar make an excellent salad dressing, but they don't mix well in romantic
relationships, unless both personalities can explore each other and find some sort of
balance. If you can adjust and love each other's personalities, regardless of any
differences, and bring out the best when you're together, then this is a winning combo,
and you could very well be a dynamic-duo in a life-long healthy relationship.
4) Share Similar Interest and Values
You don't have to have the exact interests. As a matter of fact, having diverse preferences
can help
you to share new and exciting things with each other. However, make sure you have at
least a few
common interests, so it won't be an ongoing battle over what to do and where to go to
keep you both satisfied. You may have to compromise in some areas like sports,
politics, movies, shopping,
music, etc. Keep in mind that compromising doesn't mean depriving each other of their
individual
interests but instead it means participating in each other's interests.
5) Discuss Your Spiritual Beliefs Together
If you're not on common ground with your beliefs about who and what God means to
each of you, this will eventually cause a rift in your relationship. Don't try to conceal your
true beliefs and hope that it will all just one day fall in place--it won't. Make sure you talk
about your faith honestly and openly with each other. There's a wise adage that states,
"The couple that prays together, stays together."
6) Appreciate Each Other's Unique Body Temple
Let's face it, we're all built differently. We come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and shades.
In order to
have a healthy physical and emotional relationship, you must embrace and appreciate
each other's total package. One of the worse things a couple can do to each other is to
fantasize or try to fit their mate into someone else's body image. When you throw away
preconceived "ideal body type" perceptions, you'll enjoy the true worth of your partner. I
remember years ago, one of my college friends, Nicolette, a five-foot-eight-inch, former
beauty queen, adamantly refused to date any man under the six-foot mark. Her
preconceived idea of the "ideal match" was "an athletic hunk who would be paid well for
playing ball--footfall, basketball, or baseball would qualify him--as long as he had the
height, the muscles, and the billfold." Well, after many heartbreaks, shallow
relationships, and adopting a completely new outlook on life, she eagerly reports that
she has been very happily married to a five-foot-five-inch dentist for over five years and
"has since been blessed with two wonderful children to complete her healthy marriage."
Nicolette would have missed out on the love of her life had she remained stuck with
false perceptions. Don't let this happen to you. Admire, appreciate, and enjoy your
companion's body temple.
7) Talk About "The S-&M Factor" (Sex & Money)
Two of the biggest destroyers of healthy relationships are the misuse, abuse, lack of or
over-use of
sex and money (the S & M Factor). Both are very important and very personal in your love
life. Yet,
unfortunately, most couples make the mistake of not setting quality time aside early in
their
relationship to discuss these two vital components. To put it bluntly, "You've got to know
where you're heading, before you get to the bedding; and know what you're spending
before it gets beyond mending." In deep romantic relationships, there is a world of
difference between "having sex" and "making love," just as there is a major difference
between being "involved" and "being in love." The misuse of sex, just like the misuse of
money, causes major turbulence in relationships. These can be dangerous influences
which overwhelm your relationship; or they can be healthy tools for intimacy and
success. It's up to both you and your partner to know what sex and money means to
each of you, and to make sure that you share your beliefs and feelings with each other.
Otherwise, both the sex and money issues can become major conflicts which will
destroy even the deepest love.
8) Try to Get Along With Each Other's Friends-n-Families
Although your happiness ultimately depends on how well the two of you get along with
each other,
some input from loved ones can be frosting on the cake. Do you have a healthy
interaction with each other's close associates? Make sure you ask some supportive
family members and/or dear friends their opinion about your choice in mate. If the advice
is not what you want to hear, examine it closely, evaluate the source, pray about it, and
make up your own mind anyway. Make sure you also meet your mate's family and
closest friends, and discreetly observe their interactions with each other. Look if there is
any dysfunctional family pattern that you need to address and get help with. There is a
wise old saying, "Show me your company, I'll tell you who you are." Chances are, if your
partner has a healthy interaction with loved ones, you will also get the same
treatment--and so much more!
9) Stay Away From Negative People
It's important to make a special note here, that although the interactions of relatives and
friends can be a plus in building a healthy relationship, some, unfortunately, can also be
a minus. If you face unhealthy interference and discouragement from loved ones
because of their personal insecurities, don't let them have any influence in your
relationship. Both you and your mate must be on the same page and decide to keep
negative people out of your personal love life in order to love and grow together in a
harmonious, healthy relationship.
10) Learn to Laugh Together
This one doesn't need much explanation--if there's no joy, there's very little hope.
Laughter keeps
love alive. Find something that you can both get a good hearty laugh from. Here's a little
secret that
works wonders: A good sense of humor and a pleasant disposition has a magnetic
attraction that
makes people always want to be in your presence. How can that special person resist
your
gorgeous smile and sparkling eyes? Go ahead, laugh a bit--have fun and enjoy!
There you have it--the practical, useful and effective steps that will surely enhance your
current or
future relationship. You deserve to have an enjoyable, exciting, and loving healthy
relationship with
someone who loves you, just for who you are. You are worth it!
About the Author
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, staff psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show,
is one of
America's foremost relationship consultants and a bestselling author of ten popular
books. For Dr.
Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
relationships, it's
challenging and many times difficult, to find good, solid, effective, and useful, information
that helps
to build healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships. Whether you're single, married,
divorced, or looking-to-be-married, these time-tested steps will help you and your
current or future mate to create a long-lasting romantic bliss:
1) Always Be Your "True" Self
You are wonderfully and uniquely made by a loving Creator. If you find that you have to
act or try to
become someone you weren't born to be, in order to fulfill someone else's expectation,
then
something is seriously wrong. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and what
you bring to
the relationship, and vice-versa. If you feel as if you're being pressured to alter your
character to do
things you wouldn't usually do (drink, drugs, pre-mature sex, lie) so that the person will
continue to
see you, that's a certain sign that things are unhealthy. Your true love will gladly embrace
you just for who you are--so don't be afraid, step out in faith and show your true self.
2) Develop Deep Communication with Each Other
A healthy relationship goes much deeper that a surface affair. Even though you may both
look good
arm-in-arm, or standing next to each other, whether at a concert, family reunion, Movie
Theater, or at church, can you talk when you're alone? What's going on in your
conversations--are they deep and meaningful or surface and bland? Do you discuss
personal hopes, dreams and goals, or just talk about the weather and the plot to the
latest drama? Can you count on each other to lend a listening ear, good advice, and
undivided attention? Good, honest, and deep conversation will keep you deeply
connected. When in doubt, talk it out. Always keep the lines of communication open in
your relationship.
3) Don't Ignore, but Explore Your Differences
Do your personalities blend well? Is one of you on the optimistic path while the other is
on the
pessimistic side of the road? Opposites may initially attract, but eventually they can repel
each other. It's important that your personalities are compatible. If one views life through
rose colored glasses, while the other is always singing-the-blues, then you have to
make some sort of adjustment to accommodate each other. The simple truth is oil and
vinegar make an excellent salad dressing, but they don't mix well in romantic
relationships, unless both personalities can explore each other and find some sort of
balance. If you can adjust and love each other's personalities, regardless of any
differences, and bring out the best when you're together, then this is a winning combo,
and you could very well be a dynamic-duo in a life-long healthy relationship.
4) Share Similar Interest and Values
You don't have to have the exact interests. As a matter of fact, having diverse preferences
can help
you to share new and exciting things with each other. However, make sure you have at
least a few
common interests, so it won't be an ongoing battle over what to do and where to go to
keep you both satisfied. You may have to compromise in some areas like sports,
politics, movies, shopping,
music, etc. Keep in mind that compromising doesn't mean depriving each other of their
individual
interests but instead it means participating in each other's interests.
5) Discuss Your Spiritual Beliefs Together
If you're not on common ground with your beliefs about who and what God means to
each of you, this will eventually cause a rift in your relationship. Don't try to conceal your
true beliefs and hope that it will all just one day fall in place--it won't. Make sure you talk
about your faith honestly and openly with each other. There's a wise adage that states,
"The couple that prays together, stays together."
6) Appreciate Each Other's Unique Body Temple
Let's face it, we're all built differently. We come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and shades.
In order to
have a healthy physical and emotional relationship, you must embrace and appreciate
each other's total package. One of the worse things a couple can do to each other is to
fantasize or try to fit their mate into someone else's body image. When you throw away
preconceived "ideal body type" perceptions, you'll enjoy the true worth of your partner. I
remember years ago, one of my college friends, Nicolette, a five-foot-eight-inch, former
beauty queen, adamantly refused to date any man under the six-foot mark. Her
preconceived idea of the "ideal match" was "an athletic hunk who would be paid well for
playing ball--footfall, basketball, or baseball would qualify him--as long as he had the
height, the muscles, and the billfold." Well, after many heartbreaks, shallow
relationships, and adopting a completely new outlook on life, she eagerly reports that
she has been very happily married to a five-foot-five-inch dentist for over five years and
"has since been blessed with two wonderful children to complete her healthy marriage."
Nicolette would have missed out on the love of her life had she remained stuck with
false perceptions. Don't let this happen to you. Admire, appreciate, and enjoy your
companion's body temple.
7) Talk About "The S-&M Factor" (Sex & Money)
Two of the biggest destroyers of healthy relationships are the misuse, abuse, lack of or
over-use of
sex and money (the S & M Factor). Both are very important and very personal in your love
life. Yet,
unfortunately, most couples make the mistake of not setting quality time aside early in
their
relationship to discuss these two vital components. To put it bluntly, "You've got to know
where you're heading, before you get to the bedding; and know what you're spending
before it gets beyond mending." In deep romantic relationships, there is a world of
difference between "having sex" and "making love," just as there is a major difference
between being "involved" and "being in love." The misuse of sex, just like the misuse of
money, causes major turbulence in relationships. These can be dangerous influences
which overwhelm your relationship; or they can be healthy tools for intimacy and
success. It's up to both you and your partner to know what sex and money means to
each of you, and to make sure that you share your beliefs and feelings with each other.
Otherwise, both the sex and money issues can become major conflicts which will
destroy even the deepest love.
8) Try to Get Along With Each Other's Friends-n-Families
Although your happiness ultimately depends on how well the two of you get along with
each other,
some input from loved ones can be frosting on the cake. Do you have a healthy
interaction with each other's close associates? Make sure you ask some supportive
family members and/or dear friends their opinion about your choice in mate. If the advice
is not what you want to hear, examine it closely, evaluate the source, pray about it, and
make up your own mind anyway. Make sure you also meet your mate's family and
closest friends, and discreetly observe their interactions with each other. Look if there is
any dysfunctional family pattern that you need to address and get help with. There is a
wise old saying, "Show me your company, I'll tell you who you are." Chances are, if your
partner has a healthy interaction with loved ones, you will also get the same
treatment--and so much more!
9) Stay Away From Negative People
It's important to make a special note here, that although the interactions of relatives and
friends can be a plus in building a healthy relationship, some, unfortunately, can also be
a minus. If you face unhealthy interference and discouragement from loved ones
because of their personal insecurities, don't let them have any influence in your
relationship. Both you and your mate must be on the same page and decide to keep
negative people out of your personal love life in order to love and grow together in a
harmonious, healthy relationship.
10) Learn to Laugh Together
This one doesn't need much explanation--if there's no joy, there's very little hope.
Laughter keeps
love alive. Find something that you can both get a good hearty laugh from. Here's a little
secret that
works wonders: A good sense of humor and a pleasant disposition has a magnetic
attraction that
makes people always want to be in your presence. How can that special person resist
your
gorgeous smile and sparkling eyes? Go ahead, laugh a bit--have fun and enjoy!
There you have it--the practical, useful and effective steps that will surely enhance your
current or
future relationship. You deserve to have an enjoyable, exciting, and loving healthy
relationship with
someone who loves you, just for who you are. You are worth it!
About the Author
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, staff psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show,
is one of
America's foremost relationship consultants and a bestselling author of ten popular
books. For Dr.
Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
What Women Want
Copyright (C) 2007 Elena Solomon, author of 12 Simple Rules
Copyright (C) 2007 Elena Solomon, author of 12 Simple Rules
A while ago, a guy wrote to me saying that if he knew what women wanted, he
would write a book
and retire rich.
What women want was a secret to a man for a long, LONG time.
Mel Gibson and his famous movie “What Women Want” haven’t quite answered
this question. In
fact, this is exactly the answer to the question in his own words:
“After about 20 years of marriage, I'm finally starting to scratch the surface of
what women want. And I think the answer lies somewhere between
conversation and chocolate.”
I don’t know about you but this answer doesn’t quite cut it for me. If I were a guy, I
would need
something more specific to succeed with women!
Fortunately for you, after reading this article, it will no longer be a mystery.
Because I am going to tell you EXACTLY what women want.
(I was thinking about writing a book and retiring rich… but decided to give this
secret away for free
for the good of the humanity.)
OK, let’s get to our nitty-gritty, shall we?
Generally, women want many things, including hot gossip and Italian shoes, but
as far as men-
women relationships are concerned, this is the one and the only women’s
request:
They want strong, powerful, overwhelming EMOTIONS.
They want to be swept off their feet.
If you manage to deliver THAT, all other women’s desires and requirements
become irrelevant:
money, looks, height, education, status, or anything else men habitually put on
the list of desired
attributes - NONE of this really matters.
YES! A woman can fall hopelessly in love with a man who isn’t good looking,
doesn’t have money,
doesn’t have education, who is short, bald and old, as long as he manages to
deliver these
powerful EMOTIONS that women are craving.
Why?
Because her requirements for money and status come from intellectual, or
CONSCIOUS part of the brain - and the emotion of love, or attraction, comes
from emotional, or SUBCONSCIOUS part of the brain.
In other words, she cannot help it. She cannot decide NOT to be in love. (Have
you ever tried it yourself, to stop loving the person who you know isn’t good for
you and who only brings you suffering and problems? How successful were
these attempts?)
She doesn’t ‘step into’ love - she ‘falls into’ it.
It is absolutely imperative for you as a man to evoke strong emotions in a
woman in order for her to
fall in love with you.
And they don’t have to be positive emotions only - vice versa, an emotional roller
coaster works the
best. In other words, hate is NOT the opposite of love - it’s its associate and
partner. Indifference is
the opposite of love. It is easier for you to make a woman that hates you, to fall in
love with you, than
a woman who has no feelings whatsoever towards you.
What most men do not realize is that a woman does not have to LIKE you, in
order to fall in LOVE
with you. Yes, you’ve read it right: she may NOT like you but still fall in love with
you. Quite often, the
reason why she doesn’t like you is the very reason why she falls in love with you.
Confused?
You should be.
What I realized is that although we LIKE people that are ‘like us’, we LOVE
people that have
something that we DON’T HAVE. We are powerfully attracted to people that are
DISTINCTIVELY
DIFFERENT from us. The MORE different they are, the STRONGER is our
attraction to them.
Since they are different from us, which means they aren’t ‘like us’, chances are
this difference is
something that we don’t actually like.
The powerful emotion of attraction that overrides all women’s requirements to a
potential partner
and makes her do the things she would not tell her mother about, is only evoked
in a female by a
DOMINANT MALE. In other words, the male she cannot control.
Women have in-built mechanism that reacts on the dominant male by making
them weak at their
knees and feeling swept off their feet - experiencing these all-powerful
EMOTIONS they are after.
They respond to a predetermined pattern of behavior by falling in love with the
person who exhibits
this behavior. And this pattern can be learned - this is what is commonly known
as ‘dating skills’.
Do you want to drive women crazy about you - to the extent they disregard your
looks, finances and
social status?
It is possible and attainable.
And the best thing, you CAN do it.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Elena Solomon is a dating coach.
Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in
the leading ebook
distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows you EXACTLY
how you can evoke
strong emotions in women and make them fall in love with you - regardless of
your looks, money
and status.
Get the UNFAIR ADVANTAGE in the battle of sexes!
http://www.12SimpleRules.com/
would write a book
and retire rich.
What women want was a secret to a man for a long, LONG time.
Mel Gibson and his famous movie “What Women Want” haven’t quite answered
this question. In
fact, this is exactly the answer to the question in his own words:
“After about 20 years of marriage, I'm finally starting to scratch the surface of
what women want. And I think the answer lies somewhere between
conversation and chocolate.”
I don’t know about you but this answer doesn’t quite cut it for me. If I were a guy, I
would need
something more specific to succeed with women!
Fortunately for you, after reading this article, it will no longer be a mystery.
Because I am going to tell you EXACTLY what women want.
(I was thinking about writing a book and retiring rich… but decided to give this
secret away for free
for the good of the humanity.)
OK, let’s get to our nitty-gritty, shall we?
Generally, women want many things, including hot gossip and Italian shoes, but
as far as men-
women relationships are concerned, this is the one and the only women’s
request:
They want strong, powerful, overwhelming EMOTIONS.
They want to be swept off their feet.
If you manage to deliver THAT, all other women’s desires and requirements
become irrelevant:
money, looks, height, education, status, or anything else men habitually put on
the list of desired
attributes - NONE of this really matters.
YES! A woman can fall hopelessly in love with a man who isn’t good looking,
doesn’t have money,
doesn’t have education, who is short, bald and old, as long as he manages to
deliver these
powerful EMOTIONS that women are craving.
Why?
Because her requirements for money and status come from intellectual, or
CONSCIOUS part of the brain - and the emotion of love, or attraction, comes
from emotional, or SUBCONSCIOUS part of the brain.
In other words, she cannot help it. She cannot decide NOT to be in love. (Have
you ever tried it yourself, to stop loving the person who you know isn’t good for
you and who only brings you suffering and problems? How successful were
these attempts?)
She doesn’t ‘step into’ love - she ‘falls into’ it.
It is absolutely imperative for you as a man to evoke strong emotions in a
woman in order for her to
fall in love with you.
And they don’t have to be positive emotions only - vice versa, an emotional roller
coaster works the
best. In other words, hate is NOT the opposite of love - it’s its associate and
partner. Indifference is
the opposite of love. It is easier for you to make a woman that hates you, to fall in
love with you, than
a woman who has no feelings whatsoever towards you.
What most men do not realize is that a woman does not have to LIKE you, in
order to fall in LOVE
with you. Yes, you’ve read it right: she may NOT like you but still fall in love with
you. Quite often, the
reason why she doesn’t like you is the very reason why she falls in love with you.
Confused?
You should be.
What I realized is that although we LIKE people that are ‘like us’, we LOVE
people that have
something that we DON’T HAVE. We are powerfully attracted to people that are
DISTINCTIVELY
DIFFERENT from us. The MORE different they are, the STRONGER is our
attraction to them.
Since they are different from us, which means they aren’t ‘like us’, chances are
this difference is
something that we don’t actually like.
The powerful emotion of attraction that overrides all women’s requirements to a
potential partner
and makes her do the things she would not tell her mother about, is only evoked
in a female by a
DOMINANT MALE. In other words, the male she cannot control.
Women have in-built mechanism that reacts on the dominant male by making
them weak at their
knees and feeling swept off their feet - experiencing these all-powerful
EMOTIONS they are after.
They respond to a predetermined pattern of behavior by falling in love with the
person who exhibits
this behavior. And this pattern can be learned - this is what is commonly known
as ‘dating skills’.
Do you want to drive women crazy about you - to the extent they disregard your
looks, finances and
social status?
It is possible and attainable.
And the best thing, you CAN do it.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Elena Solomon is a dating coach.
Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in
the leading ebook
distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows you EXACTLY
how you can evoke
strong emotions in women and make them fall in love with you - regardless of
your looks, money
and status.
Get the UNFAIR ADVANTAGE in the battle of sexes!
http://www.12SimpleRules.com/
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Title: Internet Dating Do's and Don'ts
Author: Amy Schoen
Article:
Copyright (c) 2007 Heartmind Connection,
LLC
Author: Amy Schoen
Article:
Copyright (c) 2007 Heartmind Connection,
LLC
Here is some Internet dating etiquette to help you along the way with any
relationship questions you may have. With so many choices to make in life, it
never hurts to receive advice from a relationship coach to help guide you through
the various online dating websites.
Just as being honest with your resume and cover letter is important when
applying for a job through an online job bank, so it is with online dating websites
and the profile you post. You
want to market yourself to help make your profile stand out from the others.
Below are some tips for helping you build an effective profile on the Internet and
successful internet dating experiences:
1. About your picture on the online dating website * Do look friendly and
approachable. * Do put the best picture possible on your profile. * Don't put just
any mug shot of you on your site. * Don't be with other people. Dog, cat and kids
are okay!
2. About your profile on the site * Do include what's unique about you and why
someone may want to go out with you. * Do describe your values in the body of
the profile. What's fulfilling for you? What do you treasure? * Do try to be a
descriptive as possible so the reader will experience what you do. (Help them
see, smell and hear the beach) Put in a come play with me quality! * Don't put
stuff in your profile that is not putting your best foot forward. * Don't lie! Be honest
and upbeat. That doesn't mean you have to tell all your faults!
3. Contacting each other * Do go after quality and not quantity! * Do find
something that you connect to. A cause or a passion. * Do email back and forth
a couple of times to get a sense of a person: their way of thinking and how they
express themselves. * Don't be a pen pal! If the person is unwilling to talk on the
phone, stop the interchange. * Do talk on the phone to gain further rapport. * Do
trust your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, don't pursue any further. *
Don't talk on the phone for weeks without making plans to get together.
4. Meeting each other * Do give each other cell phone numbers in case
something happens on your way to the meeting. * Do meet in a public place for
coffee during the day, if possible * Do "be
yourself". * Don't run away if the person doesn't look like what you thought. *
Don't give out too much information about yourself before you know the person
better. * Some important dating advice for women: Don't expect the man to pay.
Be prepared to pay your share. It will be a nice surprise if he
does offer to pay the tab. * Do give a nice person a second chance. Chemistry
can develop over time.
5. Following up * Do be honest about your level of interest in the person. They
may know someone else you'd like to meet. * Do thank the person for a nice
time and if someone paid. * Don't say you'll call and not call! * Don't wait a month
to call the woman if you liked her. She may have moved onto her next prospect.
Whether you've just recently started dating or you're an experienced single, the
above dating tips can benefit you as you refine your online dating profile. When
in doubt, remember to
consult with a close friend or a relationship coach with any relationship
questions you may have.
Good luck in your search!
About the author:
Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC, certified professional life coach and dating-
relationship expert, helps singles to attract the right romantic relationship into
their lives, is the author of
"Motivated to Marry™-Now There is a Better Method for Dating and
Relationships!" and speaks nationally to groups on dating and relationships.
For dating tips for men and women, subscribe to
her monthly ezine and teleclasses at:
http://www.heartmindconnection.com
relationship questions you may have. With so many choices to make in life, it
never hurts to receive advice from a relationship coach to help guide you through
the various online dating websites.
Just as being honest with your resume and cover letter is important when
applying for a job through an online job bank, so it is with online dating websites
and the profile you post. You
want to market yourself to help make your profile stand out from the others.
Below are some tips for helping you build an effective profile on the Internet and
successful internet dating experiences:
1. About your picture on the online dating website * Do look friendly and
approachable. * Do put the best picture possible on your profile. * Don't put just
any mug shot of you on your site. * Don't be with other people. Dog, cat and kids
are okay!
2. About your profile on the site * Do include what's unique about you and why
someone may want to go out with you. * Do describe your values in the body of
the profile. What's fulfilling for you? What do you treasure? * Do try to be a
descriptive as possible so the reader will experience what you do. (Help them
see, smell and hear the beach) Put in a come play with me quality! * Don't put
stuff in your profile that is not putting your best foot forward. * Don't lie! Be honest
and upbeat. That doesn't mean you have to tell all your faults!
3. Contacting each other * Do go after quality and not quantity! * Do find
something that you connect to. A cause or a passion. * Do email back and forth
a couple of times to get a sense of a person: their way of thinking and how they
express themselves. * Don't be a pen pal! If the person is unwilling to talk on the
phone, stop the interchange. * Do talk on the phone to gain further rapport. * Do
trust your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, don't pursue any further. *
Don't talk on the phone for weeks without making plans to get together.
4. Meeting each other * Do give each other cell phone numbers in case
something happens on your way to the meeting. * Do meet in a public place for
coffee during the day, if possible * Do "be
yourself". * Don't run away if the person doesn't look like what you thought. *
Don't give out too much information about yourself before you know the person
better. * Some important dating advice for women: Don't expect the man to pay.
Be prepared to pay your share. It will be a nice surprise if he
does offer to pay the tab. * Do give a nice person a second chance. Chemistry
can develop over time.
5. Following up * Do be honest about your level of interest in the person. They
may know someone else you'd like to meet. * Do thank the person for a nice
time and if someone paid. * Don't say you'll call and not call! * Don't wait a month
to call the woman if you liked her. She may have moved onto her next prospect.
Whether you've just recently started dating or you're an experienced single, the
above dating tips can benefit you as you refine your online dating profile. When
in doubt, remember to
consult with a close friend or a relationship coach with any relationship
questions you may have.
Good luck in your search!
About the author:
Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC, certified professional life coach and dating-
relationship expert, helps singles to attract the right romantic relationship into
their lives, is the author of
"Motivated to Marry™-Now There is a Better Method for Dating and
Relationships!" and speaks nationally to groups on dating and relationships.
For dating tips for men and women, subscribe to
her monthly ezine and teleclasses at:
http://www.heartmindconnection.com
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